Many parents out there may already have a daughter, or two, or even more. Some parents have only daughters. Some have a daughter first, then a son or sons and maybe some more daughters. For me, I started with two sons. And let me tell you, they are life-changing blessings from God.
But just recently my first daughter was born! I thought bringing home another kid would be no big deal. Boy or girl, it’s just one more mouth to feed and body to clothe. But when my first daughter, Elena, emerged into this world and we found out that she was a she, my world turned upside down. For a daddy like me, having a daughter really does change everything.
Having A Girl Is Going To Cost Me Money
Although the money aspect is really the least important in this discussion, I thought I better include it since this is a money blog (for the most part). Here are a few of the reasons that having a daughter is going to really cost me some big time money:
Hospital Bills – but those were coming whether she was a boy or a girl. We do have good health insurance, but still expect to pay a little over two grand out of pocket.
Clothes – as mentioned, I have two boys at home already. We have only boy clothes. This is part of the reason I didn’t want to find out the sex of the baby before she was born, because I knew my wife would go crazy buying girl stuff before she was even born. Regardless, she is still going to go crazy, but at least we were able to delay the craziness. This helped enable us to build up our savings in order to pay the hospital and the doctors when the bills roll in.
Toys – again, with two boys at home, we have a house full of boy toys. Now we are going to need girl baby toys, Barbie dolls, dress up clothes and whatever else girls play with.
College Savings – again, this would have happened whether she was a boy or a girl. I started 529 college savings accounts for both of my boys immediately after they were born, and plan to do the same for Elena.
Wedding Savings – is it ridiculous to be already thinking about our daughters future wedding? Traditionally, in America, the wife’s side of the family covers most of the wedding expenses. Yesterday, only our second day home from the hospital with Elena, I caught my wife sitting on the couch with her watching one of those wedding dress shows on TLC. She said they were starting to get some ideas! Yeah, we better start saving.
Home Improvement – it’s only a matter of time before my wife decides that Elena’s bedroom will need to be repainted and redecorated with some sort of girly theme.
Educating Myself About Raising A Daughter
For several years, I’ve been listening to well-respected radio talk show host Dave Ramsey. His show focuses on personal finance and handling money, but he sometimes dives into other issues, as well. He himself has raised two daughters (and a son) and he has offered some very valuable insight over the years. On many, many occasions I have heard him recommend a book to fathers who were having issues with their daughters. He speaks so highly of this book over and over again, year after year. He’s even had the author of the book on his show for a special hour where they discussed the contents of the book and answered questions from callers.
I’ve always taken Dave’s advice very seriously and have put much of it into practice. I’ve always known that this is a book that I want to read, but I didn’t have a daughter so I didn’t really have a reason to read it. I’ve even bought the book in the past to give out as a gift to a new father of a daughter.
The book is called, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know. It is written by Meg Meeker, M.D., who has more than twenty years of experience in pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. One of the several hundred positive reviews for this book on Amazon reads like this: